I need to clarify 2 things. I'll start with the stupidest and least important one:
I feel the need to declare that I have not (nor will I) had an affair, neither on line, on the phone, nor in person. I worked very hard to help a former boy-friend, who lied to me and used our contact to make himself feel better during a difficult time in his life, until he got a girlfriend. Turns out, during this time he was nailing anything that would say yes, and even those of us who were just being nice, he is now trying to tell people that we had sexual conversations and is inferring more!
Those of you who know me understand that I tend to be flirty when I talk to people... male or female! I am very affectionate, and I hug everybody... and even kiss my friends! I MAY have hugged this person when I saw him for the first time in 25 years. I also talked about the good times we had when we were younger (he didn't get sex then, either!) I will discuss anything honestly and openly, but there was nothing that he could have even misunderstood as a sexual relationship! It's a shame I have to even talk about this, but he is telling mutual friends that we were involved. I take my marriage and fidelity VERY seriously. I have the most amazing, trusting husband in the world, who is the only person I have ever had sex with, and visa-versus (sp?) We worked hard to be this way, so it is important that people know the truth!
You are welcome to ask me ANYTHING, either privately or publicly. I have nothing to hide!
The second thing is more important, because I have really harmed a relationship that I care about, and I need to make sure that I haven't hurt others. In my effort to be witty, I trampled on the reputation of an old friend, and I did that for over a year. Please don't let me do this! If I hurt your feelings, tell me the first time. If I joke about something that is important to you, please tell me.
I am hoping to repair the damage I have done, but it will take time. My friends are very important to me, so I will do what ever it takes to make things better. If you have suggestions, let me know!
Anyway, that's all I have to say about that...
-jay-
Ps. prayer request time is for me and my friend. Pray for healing and forgiveness!
Welcome to my new and improved blog... i always thought blogs were either by very profound people with important things 2 say, or narcissistic insomniacs! i am sure i am the latter, but hopefully u will find something in these words that move u... i'm sure i will offend u, maybe inspire u, and likely make u laugh (probably inadvertently...) Thank you for stopping by!
You're "former boy/friend" is, next to myself, the most unattractive man I know. Not just for his actions but for his dental "care" and his insistence on continuing the mid 1980's tradition of the mullet (already a mistake) as his hair continues to leave him... strand by, ever shortened, strand.
ReplyDeleteWhile I appreciate his military service, it is obvious that somewhere along the way from high school to reality he lost the path. Be it a fault of his military experience or his choice.
I feel for his former wife. Who was so hurt, or possibly unsatisfied, that she no longer considers men an option. I do not hold pity for you. I hold anger.
Everyone, not anyone, who knows you knows what your honest heart means to you. One look at your husband tells me that no woman, with the possible exception of my wife, could be more satisfied in bed or out. ;)
Jaymi, I am so sorry that this happened to you. The danger, and pain, of having a large heart (metaphorically, not a medical "enlarged heart") is that when you open it, it is much easier wounded. The benefit is, sadly, mostly to others. I have been on the receiving end of your heart and am grateful for that experience and blessing.
God will deal with "he who shall not be named" in His own time. God loves His children and can be a very overprotective parent. Pray for the foolish one who picks on His children or spreads lies about them. That child, on this playground, is in for one heck of a "time-out".
aaron, you and he are not even the same species in heart or in looks! i am honest, so know that i am never just "nice." thank you for your words, here and other times! you helped me take the higher road. thank you! -jay-
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